There’s bravery in admitting you don’t feel brave.
When was the last time you asked someone else for help? It may have been help on your homework, help making a big decision, or help dealing with painful emotions. How did it feel asking for support? A lot of words might come to mind, but for most people, “brave” isn’t one of them.
The truth is, though, we all need support sometimes, and asking for it is a sign of courage.
It shows that you know what you need and aren’t afraid to admit it. It’s never “wrong” or “bad” to feel something: all emotions are valid, because they’re real. Even so, fear that you’ll be judged or that no one will understand is common. It’s perfectly normal to feel alone in what you’re dealing with, and to assume that no one has ever dealt with the same thing.
But even though no one can know everything about your exact situation, they can understand the feelings that come with it. Everyone knows what it’s like to have feelings of loneliness, emptiness, or disappointment. You’re never completely alone if you remember that others have felt a version of what you’re feeling.
When you’re in crisis, it can be hard to remember that you deserve to feel better. You always deserve that, and it’s always possible to get there. The wonderful thing about difficult feelings is that they don’t last forever.
You may have heard the expression “This too shall pass.” Those words have served as a reminder to many that hard times do come to an end, that life is full of ups and downs, all of which you’ve survived so far.
When you’re in one of those “downs,” remembering other times you’ve felt that way can go a long way. Specifically, what helped you those other times? How did it feel when it was over, and you felt okay again?
Asking for support is one of the bravest and most important things you can do. It means you’re saying to the world, “My desire to be well is stronger than my fear will ever be.” That’s powerful, and something to be proud of.
If you’re in the United States and need support, Crisis Text Line has trained Crisis Counselors prepared to give free, confidential support 24/7 via text message or Facebook Messenger. The service is coming soon to other countries. If you are in crisis, Text HOME to 741741.
This article was originally published in edition 18 of Kids Nation magazine.